Low carb. Low fat. Paleo. Atkins. Fat flush. Jenny Craig. Weight Watchers. Cookie diet. Juice cleanse. Detox.
And on and on and on…
There is so much information on how to lose weight and get healthier. Every single one of them is going to help you burn fat. Get six pack abs. Increase energy. Sleep better. Increase productivity at work.
CHANGE. YOUR. LIFE.
Instantly. In a week. A month.
And the thing is: They all can work.
And they all can fail.
They are all trying to sell you something. Some of them will sell you what you want to hear (take this pill and watch the fat burn away). Some will sell you their name brand meal plans, books, portions, cookbooks.
Even I will try and sell you something before this article is over.
Down the rabbit hole you go; asking which plan will work for me? Where to invest? What’s going to work? Because I’m unhappy. I don’t like the way I look. I don’t have a good relationship with food. I need to do something. I’m desperate. Who do I trust? They all have Doctors. They all have results. They all have glowing testimonials by people who lost 400 lbs using their system.
You can trust me. Or you can stop reading. I’ll share with you what works for me and you KNOW YOU CAN TRUST IT.
Why? Because you’re going to hate it.
Without any further ado, here’s the 5 biggest roadblocks to losing weight.
But before we get there. Why listen to me? What’s my story?
I’ve been fit my whole life. But once upon a time I had a bike accident which, for you enjoyment, was captured here:
I am an idiot, yes, but please read on despite my mental shortcomings.
The crash happened Wednesday. The following Monday I set sail on a cruise to Bermuda. As you see above I was pretty banged up, couldn’t move well. And I was on a cruise. You know there are people on board cruises who think ‘if my cruise costs $1,500 and I eat $1,800 of food it’s like someone paid me to go to the Bermuda.’ There’s lots of unhealthy eating on these things. You can literally gorge your way across the Atlantic.
I gained weight. I normally run around 183-185. When I returned I was 197.
It sounds like my trip was just one long, depressing camp out at the buffet, but it wasn’t. Watch for yourself by clicking here.
I lost that weight in just over 2 months. The scale read 179 this morning. I’ve kept it off. It’s been 5 years. I practice what I preach. Do you trust me? We cool? Thought so.
On to the roadblocks.
1-You have the wrong mindset
‘Most people are thinking about what they don’t want and then they wonder why it shows up over and over again.‘- John Assaraf
‘Thoughts become things. If you can see it in your mind you can hold it in your hand.‘- Bob Proctor
Thoughts become words. Words become behavior. Behavior becomes habits. Habits become YOU.
Your mindset isn’t right. Something about food and exercise isn’t aligned properly.
It’s amazing how hard it is to change. We often get attached to the very things that are holding us back. We fight against an idea that may help us because it’s so far removed from conventional wisdom.
Allow me to point out that if conventional wisdom regarding food was slightly accurate 70% of Americans wouldn’t be overweight.
So let’s forget your previous ideas around food, dieting and exercise and start fresh. Let’s cut out of a few of the most damaging conventional wisdom beliefs.
- You can out-train a bad diet.
- You need to starve yourself.
- Calories in vs calories out. The key to losing weight efficiently is burning 500 more calories per day than you consume.
- Doing an hour of cardio means you’ve earned that extra slice of pizza/cookie/ice cream.
- Fat is bad.
- Carbs are bad.
- I’m stuck this way for the rest of my life.
Let’s take a closer look at that last one. Thoughts are things. If you carry that last one around with you it is not going to leave easily. We need to exorcise that subconscious belief or else you’re right.
This is an example of what Carol S Dweck would label a fixed mindset. In her book ‘Mindset: the psychology of success’ she labels a fixed mindset is the view that your talent and ability are unchangeable. You will always be one way, good or bad, and should you try something outside of your comfort zone and fail that just reconfirms the fixed belief, and if it doesn’t you make up an excuse to explain it.
- I failed in math because I’m just bad at math.
- I failed to lose weight because I’m just naturally overweight. I’m big boned.
- I’ll never improve at yoga because I’m just really tight.
The fixed mindset lets you off the hook. It’s not your fault. It’s just the way things are.
Let’s change your mindset. You need to be the person you were born to be. A growth mindset person is as a work in progress. They believe they are continually enhancing their intelligence, abilities and competence through effort and practice. They view challenges as learning opportunities. Failure is an opportunity to learn and grow. Therefore people with a growth mindset actively seek challenges even at the risk of appearing less than perfect, because they love to learn.
- I failed this math test but I’ll do better next time.
- My diet wasn’t a huge success but I got a little better.
- I’m still horrible at yoga, but I was a little more flexible today. I’m willing to fail to improve.
That last one is me. Years of running left me tight and inflexible. I signed up for teacher training because I wanted to get better and because someone out there with less talent than me has succeeded in what I’m trying to do. After months of purposeful failure…
Growth mindset. How you like me now?
You’ve failed again and again. Look back at every one and don’t flinch. Don’t beat yourself up, but don’t make excuses. You’re learning. Why did I fail? Did I improve at all? What would I change next time?
And be positive. Focus on what you want. Who you want to be. Think of nothing else.
Now let’s grow.
‘Man sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health.’
‘I don’t have time.’ This is the number one excuse I hear when people fail in their pursuit of health and fitness. You have time. You just need to realize where it is.
Stop reacting to your day- start planning it. One of the most powerful things you can do to lose weight is to open up a calendar and schedule out your week. Note that you have an hour on Sunday to cook some meals, an hour on Monday to work out, a half hour Tuesday to go for a walk. And if you truly do not have time for all of this you are, in fact, too busy, and you are going to end up sacrificing your money, your happiness or your freedom further down the line.
This is your life. This is your time. You are the most important person in your world, so put yourself first, even if that makes you uncomfortable in the short term. Your health is your most important asset.
You’ve put other things first up to this point. Are you happy? Then let’s try scheduling. Start small. Schedule 4 hours this week. An hour to shop, an hour to cook, and two hours to work out.
Or you keep doing what you’ve done to this point: waking up every morning and reacting to what’s going on in your schedule. Missing workouts because you’re too busy, too tired, too overwhelmed. Eating poorly because you haven’t shopped, haven’t prepped and haven’t given much thought to what you’re putting in your body.
Ask yourself, ‘how has that worked out so far? Am I happy?’
Then boot up your calendar and let’s grow.
3-You’re going too fast/You expect instant results
‘Nowadays even instant gratification takes too long’- Carrie Fisher
I’m guilty of this one. I get impatient waiting for websites to load.
Or for the person driving in front of me to get through traffic (even though I know we’ll be stopped at another light thirty yards ahead).
We want it more, we want it now. We want it fast.
Cook fast. Eat fast. Lose weight instantly.
When it comes to your body that just isn’t going to happen. It takes time.
I do know one way I can lose 10 lbs in 2 hours. If I run 20 miles in the middle of the day I sweat off 10 lbs (honestly). But as soon as I drink some water…
My thoughts on rapid weight loss programs summed up visually:
If it worked then we wouldn’t have an obesity problem.
We want to believe quick weight loss can be done, and we’re being sold what we want to hear.
Full disclosure: I’m selling you something as well. But trust me, you’re going to hate it.
So there is no quick way. What then?
Did you know what the most effective habit for sustained weight loss is?
Eating slowly means your body can register it is full before you’ve overstuffed yourself. Your portion sizes will decrease. So eat slower. Get out the tupperware, save some for later.
If you try it for a day then it is as effective as one of those magic weight loss pills sold on TV.
But if you internalize this, if you make it a habit over a long, slow, boring period of time then you will see results.
Put your fork down between bites, use your left hand, use chop sticks. Slow it down. Enjoy your food. Savor it.
Let go of any expectation of instant gratification. Plan for the long term. Make small improvements. The body is subtle. It’s slow.
And then it isn’t. You look down, a month has passed and you’re looking like someone new.
BTW: one of my favorite fitness quotes: You overestimate what you can do in a day, underestimate what you can do in a month. Put that on a poster and pin it on your wall.
Take it day by day. And take it slow. You’re only rushing towards another stop light.
4-The Amount you eat
We gain weight by over eating. That much is abundantly clear.
But we can keep weight on by under eating.
When we undernourish ourselves our primitive body thinks we are starving and it conserves body fat. Then it looks around and says ‘My energy source is drying up, so I need to streamline.’ Your body eschews muscle for stored fat. Muscle requires energy and nutrition to maintain it and that is a luxury that your body, in it’s present starved state, cannot afford. So your body fat percentage goes up and you lose muscle tone. Now you have less muscle and thus, a slower metabolism, so chances are you’re going to store a little bit more fat before it’s all over.
Dropping calories drastically will not work. I’ve tried it, you’ve tried it, everyone has tried it. And yet still, look around. 2/3 of the American Public is overweight. Another moment where conventional wisdom has failed us.
Think that’s confusing, try counting calories. Actually I’d rather you not. Counting calories is unreliable. The caloric estimate of what you’re consuming might be off by up to 50%. And the percentage of those calories being absorbed by your body varies depending on the food and how processed it is by the time it crosses your plate (calories in highly processed foods are absorbed easier).
How much should you eat then? And what?
I prefer to measure with something you carry everywhere you go. It’s a measuring system that is tailored to someone of your specific size. What is this high tech measuring device?
Your hands. Precision nutrition has a nifty guide to measuring out your food portions here. It tells you how much to eat of every type of food. And once you learn it you’ll never forget.
Does that sound too complex? Well, Precision nutrition has helped 50,000 clients lose over a million total pounds (that’s 20 on average). That means that someone out there who was in worse shape, with less talent, less time and more limiting factors has overcome all these obstacles and persevered.
I just so happen to be a Precision Nutrition Coach.
Let’s look back at the first four roadblocks. You need:
- A growth mindset that sees ‘failure’ as just another learning experience on your way to success.
- To plan your day so that you put your health and your self first.
- Patience. Set a goal and patiently move inches towards it every day.
- A simple system that easily manages our individual portions.
I knew you were going to hate it. Nothing sexy, nothing flashy, nothing quick.
And now for the 5th, and most important road block to your success.
5-You don’t have a mentor
If you ask all the great athletes, all the great business people what the secret to their success was their coach or mentor would be near the top of the list.
You are no different.
You need someone who has been there. Who knows your struggle first hand.
I promised I was going to sell you something.
All this information I’ve shared above is free. It’s out there. It’s in blogs, on google, in studies, on CNN, on MSNBC. It costs nothing. And there’s loads more out there. That’s not what I’m selling.
Because even with all of this cutting edge information at our very fingertips 2/3 of people in the United States are overweight. How is that?
Firstly- there is too much information; some is good, some lame, some dangerous.
Secondly- all the information in the world will not help you one bit unless there is some action behind it.
Thirdly- Sometimes you need someone to call you out and make sure you’re doing the work.
Hiring a coach is the best thing you can do to kickstart your health.
I live the transformation you’re trying to make. Every day. I’ve lost weight, kept it off, I watch what I eat, I exercise daily, I plan and prioritize my time, I portion my food; all so I can look you in the eye with 100% certainty and say:
Trust me, this is going to work. My body is my billboard.
I need to to be the real deal so that no matter your problem I can lend you an authentic hand.
I’ve won awards (named Boston’s Best Trainer) for doing this.
I’ve got enough certifications and testimonials to let you know I’m the real deal. I’ve been featured on TV, quoted in the media, interviewed for Men’s Health.
I want to help you.
After 15 years of working one on one helping clients get stronger, lose weight, and get out of pain I grew frustrated. Clients were seeing results after training with me for two or three hours a week but I wanted more. To really remove those five road blocks I created an online program that allows daily access to coaching, weekly one on one goal setting calls, weekly group calls, individual weight and cardio programming, and a members only support group. You’ll be inspired, led, and supported every day for the entire program. It provides more value than a traditional training program. I want you to learn, I want to push you, I want to pick you up when you’re broken down so that finally, when we’re finished, you’ll say ‘That was hard, but I’m glad I did it.’
If you want to change your life then start by booking a free call with me. Click here.